Free Will VS Destiny A Psychics Dilemma

Free Will VS Destiny A Psychics Dilemma

Free Will VS Destiny A Psychics Dilemma

Free Will vs. Destiny: The Psychic's Dilemma. As a professional psychic, I am often asked fate-related questions. "When am I going to get married?" "What is my purpose in life"? "Where is my soul mate?" The reality is, these situations are mostly decided by the choices you make and the actions you take. These choices are often a product of the energy we create through our thoughts and actions. We do give out vibrations that create our realities. That energy is perceived by others within the collective unconscious, and that energy sets our path. Other people sense this energy and they react according to how it affects their energy. They make choices that affect out fates as well. It is all interconnected and complex. Here is the bottom line, simplified. Your destiny is simply your potential. It is NOT a given. Your destiny includes things that you CAN achieve if you follow a particular direction using your free will. If you choose to take another path, or take no action at all, things will turn out differently for you. A good psychic can only GUIDE you in a direction that can lead you to your optimum destiny. You have to do the real work to get there. When a psychic looks into that region beyond time and space to see where you may be heading, she is seeing strong probabilities based on the energy you have created using your free will. The choices you make put actions in motion that are leading you to a certain destination. That destination can be seen, but so can many of the actions and choices that must be made to get there. Asking a psychic to predict your future without having her tell you what you must do to get there is counter-productive. You must have a plan, you must make choices. Look at someone you know who always operated on blind faith without making plans to reach a goal. Didn't turn out too well did it? A psychic is there to help you make plans and to avoid potential snafus. Here is another strange thing: difficult things happen anyway, even though we have a good plan. Life also gives us certain lessons when we need them. Without these lessons, we would not grow. They are not always fun, they are not always pretty. The world is a difficult place at times. But, just as we are all interconnected, so are our potential fates. We must deal with these obstacles so that we may adjust our lives and actions to match and better flow with the general energy that is prevalent at that particular time. Often, a psychic can help you with this. Here is a good example. Say you have been working at the same career for many years, and suddenly the market changes and you get laid off. A lot of other people get laid off in your industry, but you continue looking for a new job in the same industry. You feel that fate and hard work got you into this industry, and you are determined to stick with it. However, no matter how hard you try, no matter how many companies you send your resume out to, you just don't get a job in that industry. Well, obviously it is time to switch to something else. The reason for the dearth of opportunities in your field is that the rest of the people who were laid off in your industry are looking for the same job that you are, and the market is saturated. Now, if you want to take control of your fate, you are going to do your research and find what other industries are hiring and decide what might fit your skills, or look into getting some job training for another career. This is taking control of your fate and looking for opportunities that might lead you toward your destiny along a somewhat different path. Or you can keep applying for the same jobs as everyone else, and become more and more despondent that you are not getting hired. Sadly, the people who are beating their heads against a wall trying to get a job in their old industry are often emailing me, asking when they are "going to get a job". Often they become angry when I tell them to look outside their field and do some research on other sectors that are hiring. Or worse, when I suggest that they try a specific industry that is new and is hiring. They seem to feel that I should see their immutable future and be able to pinpoint the particulars of their fate when they are not willing to take their destiny into their own hands. It is not only quite possible to fine-tune your destiny, but it is also possible to create an entirely new destiny! Free will is the rule. We do have probable paths that we are likely to take, and a psychic sees these paths. However, just because they are seen does not mean that they cannot be changed. Quite the contrary, once you know what path your action may lead you down, you can take actions to change it. This is what a good psychic is for, to help you make informed decisions. When a person asks me a question about the distant future, such as "What is my destiny?" I usually see multiple paths. If they ask me about the short-term future, I see possibilities based on their present course of actions. I then give them choices they can make to reach the best possible future. So, asking psychics "Who will I marry?" is basically a waste of time. Yes, I know we all want to believe that our love, one of the most important issues in life to many of us, is predestined. But ask yourself, how many relationships do we see that turn out happily ever after? Some do (thank goodness), but those take hard work. Wouldn't it be better to ask which characteristics in potential mates are most likely to work out in the long run, rather than who you will marry? Or what you could do to help make the relationship successful? The point is that, when it comes to our futures, it is much better to use a psychic to help us make better, informed decisions than put ourselves into their hands blindly and ask them to spell out our fates for us by telling us what is going to happen in the distant future. Blind faith sometimes leads to misery, while making choices based on promising probabilities can rewarding you with success and happiness. And yes, sometimes we do get lucky. It happens to me all the time, but then, I have the inside scoop:)

Psychic Window

Psychic Window

How To Devlope Your Own Psychic Ability

HOW TO DEVELOP YOUR OWN PSYCHIC ABILITY

Have you ever had that "gut feeling" that you knew was right only to find out it WAS right? Well, that is a part of our natural senses that has been suppressed by our conscious mind in order to deal with the complications of daily life. In fact , we ALL have the natural ability to be psychic. When you train your mind to pay attention and be open to these hunches, you will receive them on a more regular basis and with more clarity than you ever thought possible.

People often have erroneous ideas as to how the process of receiving psychic impressions works. They get these from watching really bad movies and TV shows which tend to sensationalize psychic phenomena. But it is actually pretty simple. All psychic information is processed through our subconscious mind, and the problem is that most of us simply do not know how to listen. There is a massive amount of information that our subconscious must filter, as our conscious mind can only handle so much. Our conscious mind is conditioned to receive only what we feel we need to manage our daily lives. If it did not, we all would experience acute sensory overload. It would be like trying to read and process every newspaper and blog on the planet during your coffee break. Because of this information overload, we have tuned out our other natural, intuitive senses, and hence our subconscious mind filters most of this information out before it reaches our conscious mind.

I find that learning to listen to your subconscious mind without trying to control it is the best way to train your mind to accept these intuitive impressions. The trick is learning to pay attention to the signals, the symbols, the feelings and the voice your subconscious mind uses to communicate. Do not try to force anything, it never works that way. You can slowly allow these things to come to you through meditation. In this way, you can learn to become psychic naturally. I find that many people sabotage themselves by trying too hard to make it happen. The secret is to let yourself relax completely and allow these things to come to you from your subconscious mind. This is completely different from any other discipline, as you must allow yourself to let go and your mind to simply blank.

It will take some time, so you mustn’t feel rushed.

When you feel you are ready to learn how to listen to that inner voice, read on.

Relax, take some slow, deep breaths. Just for an instant to clear your mind of all thoughts. Try to wipe away all reactions to your day, all emotional responses to what has been happening in your life, and go blank. Most people cannot do this for long and you really do not have to do so for more than a few seconds. Now focus your attention on relaxing your whole body, muscle by muscle, pay attention to your breath. Just feel yourself breathing and then visualize your breath as anything you want, it can be colors, it can be a mist, it can be anything as long as you see it in your mind, moving in and out of your lungs. Now here is the trick: once you have relaxed and totally focused on your breath, change your focus and visualize a blank movie screen. Then just allow your mind to wander. Just watch what comes across. Do not try to control it, allow your subconscious mind to send any visuals it chooses.

Your mind will start to show you pictures. They are symbols that represent something that is coming from your subconscious. It is a form of communication, but do not worry about that in the beginning. If you just allow it to happen, over time you will learn to decipher what the symbols mean. They will be uniquely individual to you. No two people are alike when it comes to how these things are communicated.

In this way, by just training your mind to allow it to happen, by paying attention to what is coming through and when, you will begin to learn what each symbol, visual, color and voice means. Eventually, you will learn to understand the symbols that your subconscious mind uses to communicate an idea, a situation, a concept to you. Dreams, too, are a form of communication from your subconscious, and although they contain much information, most of us feel we need a descrambler to try to make sense of it all. The difference between your dreams and the visualization process I have described above is that, when you are visualizing, your conscious mind is present and you are consciously observing instead of being controlled by the dream.

Sometimes, in addition to seeing pictures during this meditation, you might hear words. This is just another mode of subconscious communication. Don’t focus too intently on the specific words or what they might mean, just allow your mind to wander. After the meditation is complete and all of the information has been allowed in, you can then attempt to decipher what each thing meant. However, it is important not to put too much pressure on yourself to “understand” what every word or symbol might mean. This is something that evolves naturally, over time.

The more you allow your mind to communicate with you in this way, the more you will understand what it is telling you, and eventually it will become more clear and direct. At some point, you may start to receive these symbols, these "communications," during non- meditative times; during your waking, daily life. As you can imagine, this can be quite helpful.

I do this meditation daily. I recommend doing it three times a week to start out.
With time, you will become familiar with the signals you receive and you will be able to get these messages instantaneously. That is when those "gut feelings" will start to make sense

Love is in the Details

(This is a continuation of the What is Love? series of posts)

The smell of a rose, the tickle of breath on your neck, the soft kiss on your lips, the caress of fingers on you’re your fingertips, running hands through your hair, the taste of salt on another’s skin, the smell of summer in an embrace, the soft feel of lips pressed against eachother. Yes, LOVE is IN the Details. The little things: cards, letters, glances, gifts, sighs, hugs, touches, and aches when you are apart. LOVE is NOT just about sex, although it is a beautiful expression of it. LOVE is Fusion, becoming ONE with the OTHER, something greater than each of you can ever possibly be alone. Love is the soft breeze at night, the chill of the first frost of winter, the song of a nightingale, the breathless whisper in the night, a head on your lap, a gentle hand rubbing your back. Love is the shield and the sword of valor, the constant star of kindness, the tender mercy of thoughtfulness. Great LOVE is in very SMALL things and actions. These little things make Love the Magical thing that it is! When these no longer have an effect on you with your significant other or are not done at all, then Love is gone and you should move on.

Yes, actually these little signs are very much like the canary in a coal mine. When they cease to exist then the oxygen is gone from the relationship and something vitally important is missing. It is not the death knell, but it is a good sign that your relationship is no longer flourishing and something is amiss. Now is the time to either get it rekindled and breathe some air into it or go your separate ways. It is funny, just like when Lao Tzu said, “Great acts are made up of small deeds.” So to is it with love. Just being in the same room moves you, just getting to speak to your significant other, or watch a movie or discuss music or talk about the summer rains, or times when you were kids. Funny, Love is in the details.

All my heart goes out to you in your quest of finding these little detials in your life! --Joan

Love is Power and Energy

(This is a continuation of the "What is Love?" series of posts)

This brings me to the next topic about LOVE. Really love is about Power and Energy. This energy is all aro und us, untapped and unseen. See my Love and Dark Matter post for more detailed explanation. When you master Love you are able to tap into this power and begin to realize that the world is not such a difficult place after all. Things you though were not possible, become possible. You gain insight, wisdom, creativity, humor, and kindness that were reserved for the sages. When you are with another person who masters Love, the energy is on a quantum level. Your vibrations resonate so strongly together that no power on heaven or earth could ever separate you. This is where the expression “Love is Eternal” comes from. True, undying, unyielding, blinding Love has a power and energy unmatched in the universe. When you are able to control it, you feel almost god-like. Hugo says, “The supreme happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved - loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves."

The energy that comes from truly and honestly being in love with another person is absolutely astounding. You find you can tap untold stores of energy, enthusiasm, and endurance. You are more playful, upbeat, kinetic, and restless. Your batteries rarely discharge, and you seem to always be able to go the extra mile and no distance or effort seems too great. You wonder where this came from, and you cannot understand how you can now sleep more soundly, and wake up with more vigor! The energy of Love emanates from your soul and feeds other people around you. You actually will become a magnet to people around you because of this abundance of energy that permeates your very being. Real Love creates energy, other imitation loves drain you. As Tagore says, “Love is the highest bliss that man can attain to, for through it alone he truly knows that he is more than himself, and that he is at one with the All.”

Here is to feeling the power and energy that true love brings. -- Joan

Love Is NOT Compromise

(This in the continuation of the "What is Love?" post series)

True Love does not have to Compromise. When you find your “other” half, you will not have to compromise your view, values, ethics, or ways. Actually, you are asked to be more eccentric, daring, and carefree. Your fears disappear. When you are with another TRUE LOVE, who has mastered this art form, the true being of yourselves feed off each other like a fusion reactor, growing in magnitude and power each day. You fuse, burn and are reborn as a greater self. The ego does not die, but becomes a super-ego of we and us. Instead of being asked to be LESS of yourself, you are FORCED to be MORE of YOUR TRUE self. You discover hidden abilities, and powers. You become more childlike, in innocence and thinking. You become clearer in your purpose in life, and truer to the perfect image of yourself. You discover the unborn divinity within you.

Unfortunately, many people believe that True Love involves compromising who you really are. Yes, there are times and places for compromise, but being in love with the other half of you that resonates at the same frequency and harmonic is NOT ONE OF THEM (see my dark matter post for a explanation). As soon as you are asked to be LESS of yourself, you diminish not only yourself but the relationship as well. Yes, yes, yes, you are saying that every relationship requires compromise: nonsense. When you are with your other half, your “soul mate” so to speak, there is no need to compromise. You bend and weave together like a beautiful tapestry, adding color and substance to each others’ lives. Yes, this is why TRUE LOVE and finding a SOUL MATE is so rare. It is usually because we start off all our relationships with compromises and in the end, settle for something less that what we want or deserve. If you want TRUE LOVE, do not compromise yourself for anything less than what you deserve!

Now, some people will settle for something less, something more ordinary and mundane in a love relationship. As a Master of Love, I have found whenever I have to compromise or back off from my true self, the relationship usually ends shortly thereafter. Others are able to “eat crow” in order to stay in a diminished capacity relationship, and bravo for them. What I am saying, is when you “discover” your True Love, something truly magical will happen and compromise is not part of the equation.

Yes, even those who have found their True Love will have disagreements. That is part of the growing process. But these disagreements are actually opportunities to grow closer not further apart. When you are “paired” with your harmonic match, each person’s new perspective is added to the others. These “differences” are accepted for the grace and beauty they bring to the relationship as opposed to a possible gulf of ideas that could estrange each party.In contrast , when you are forced to compromise yourself or your ideals with a “difference” in a love relation, they usually turn into arguments. Then instead of focusing on the relationship, you are now developing strategies on how to “manage” your partner, or their anger, or your anger, or your feelings. This is a WASTE of TIME and if you can settle for this situation, then I pity you, for you will NEVER get to the love you deserve.

What ever you do or become, be true to yourself! Joan

Love Demands Action and is Expansive

(This in the continuation of the "What is Love?" post series)

Love cannot sit still, but must continuously grow. Like two vines intertwined, Love needs to constantly be reaching new heights and take risks. Yes, I said take risks. Contentment is absolutely the most destructive thing for Love’s growth. It makes us lazy, and starts to impose expectations upon us that the other person will tend to our needs and desires. Love takes constant cooperation and agitation in order to grow and flourish.

The worst thing that you can do to Love is to be content and get into a routine. It is a fallacy to EXPECT love to be there because it was there yesterday, or the day before, or the day before that. Yes, love is enduring, but it demands action to keep it growing. A Love that does not grow, will shortly whither away into a memory. Love forces us into unknown and uncharted places and forever keeps us asking what can I do to make this thing better? How can I love differently, or more uniquely, or more deeply, or more fully? The love you had yesterday is still good for today, but today’s love is demanding something more. And when you become a master of Love, you are ready to give it. You are excited to see what new thing Love has brought you, how what you thought was impossible is now possible, how a place you thought you could never get to you are now standing it. Love takes you to places unimagined! Love is a time machine, both forwards and backwards. It makes you a child and at the same time wise; a fool and a scholar. Love brings together things that should not be together. When two people who are masters of Love are IN LOVE, the world DISAPPEARS! Yes, they ARE the only two people in the whole world and everyone else is envious of them.

May the world be envious of you,
Joan

Love Demands Parity

(This in the continuation of the "What is Love?" post series)

A friend of mine, who happens to be a Master Jedi of Love, was talking to me about love and what to expect in a relationship. As I was explaining to her the aspects of true love, I illustrated an analogy about parity using a Cheetah as an example. I chose Cheetahs to represent people who have mastered the Art of Love. Cheetahs are the fastest, most agile mammals on earth. They hunt with reckless abandon, so much so that each time they reach top speed in pursuit of their quarry they are virtually on the cusp of death (hum, sort of like how real LOVE is supposed to be). Anyway, I was explaining to her about when one person in a relationship is a Cheetah, and the other is not. Her question was, "Can a Cheetah be in a happy relationship with a non-Cheetah?", and unfortunately the answer was no. In her heart, she already knew the answer, as in her present relationship she was already starting to find out he was not a real Cheetah and compiling a list of of items in which they were not in parity.

Why can a Cheetah not be with a non-Cheetah and be happy? Because one of two things will happen: The non-Cheetah will try to cage and bring down the Cheetah, instead of letting it run wild, run free, and always return home with the kill. Non-Cheetahs will be jealous of the Cheetah’s skill, power, energy, and ability to always bounce back and to run free. Anyway, you have to ask yourself, is a Cheetah in a cage really a Cheetah? Doesn’t a Cheetah HAVE to be free to be a Cheetah? Of course it does!

On the other hand, the Cheetah will not be able to slow down enough to let the non-Cheetah keep up. Asking to keep up with frustrate the Cheetah to no end. The non-Cheetah or the Cheetah or both will get irritated with the other person, and there will be a huge discord and no matter how likeable, or affable the non-cheetah is, they STILLWILL NOT BE A CHEETAH! So, if you are a Cheetah in that you have mastered love, know what you really WANT in a love relationship, and have the power to truly Love another person, you will ONLY be happy when you are with another Cheetah. And ONLY another Cheetah will be happy with you! Having the power of Love DEMANDS parity. In this case, the ability of two people to love each other to the same mastery. This is just like I explained in my Dark Matter blog about vibrations and rightness of fit. If you hide your power, or try to force a relationship it just will not work. Many people get into a relationship or stay together out of fear of being alone or just due to inertia, but eventually; you will not want to be with that person, so start looking for your equal Cheetah now!

So can two non-Cheetahs be happy together? Yes and no. In any relationship, there will be one person who is going to grow or will grow faster than their partner and strive to be a Cheetah. They are looking to become a master of love, and when that happens, if the other person has not grown as well or is not becoming a Cheetah too, then, well you KNOW what is going to happen: Discord, heartache, and an eventual breakup.

May you be and find your Cheetah!
Joan

Love takes Practice

(this is in continuation of my What is Love? series)

Every expert, or master, or professional started out as an amateur. Yes, even me; I was a bumbling, stumbling idiot in my first few relationships. Let me reassure you: Everyone can become a master of Love and Get the Love they deserve if they just start practicing today. If it is important to you, you have to start practicing and going through the process of success and failure.

As a good friend of mine is fond of saying, “In victory I learn little, but in defeat everything.” So too is it with Love. I learned (and so should you) from the many, many, many mistakes I made in relationships, and I have the advantage of being able to tap into the metaphysical, and get guidance from the astrological plane, but still I had to learn some things the hard way. In addition, my 15 plus years of counseling individuals through the pain and anguish of breakup, heartache and often reconciliation in love relationships has helped refined my skills and knowledge to a point of where I KNOW what a person in love will do even BEFORE they do it. Of course, personally I had a choice on what to do concerning the pain and anguish I went through in my failures. I could have committed myself to become a master of Love (where I could then help others), or I could have become fearful, jaded, bitter, scared, and cloistered my heart against any pain of feelings I might have experienced now and in the future. I choose to be a master of Love.

To become this master, I had to take a good look at myself and then ask what do I really Want (as opposed to just what I needed) in life and love (see my blog about Need v. Want). Once I did that, I was determined to develop the skills and knowledge to get what I wanted, not just what I needed. I had to practice every day, and little by little I started to understand and develop a skill set that allowed me to recognize love and be able to love fully and completely another person. It was sometimes hard, but the best part is when you really love someone, and they truly and completely love you back, it is like being in rapture. It is just totally the most out of this world feeling you will ever experience. As you both take that climb into a higher plane of existence, the feeling of joy grows, strengthens and catapults you to a totally new state of being. To most people, this is an alien and foreign world, but one I hope I can guide many people towards.

OK, just telling you to practice is not quite enough; I need to give you some how-tos as well. First, after your have sat down and figured what you want to give and get in a loving relationship (To help with this, please reference my Need v. Want blog), make a list of affirmations and recite that list every day until you can commit it to memory. This will start pointing your whole psyche towards the positive aspects of love and yourself. Next, go to the library or book store and start reading on topics dealing with successful love techniques. Yes, READ! Now (this is mostly for the girls out there). DO NOT JUMP INTO BED with anybody on the 1st, 2nd, or 5th date, and TALK about it to him first about how important it is to get to know each other first. If he is ONLY interested in sex he will run away (and good riddance), but if he is interested in YOU he will stick around. I do not care how cute, rich, handsome, etc he is, if you want to win at love, you need to play by the rule of keep away. Guys HAVE to invest in the relationship (remember your affirmations) in order to see value in YOU and the RELATIONSHIP. Men do not equate sex with love, thought they will say they do, the do not! Anything gained easily is easily lost. Work on friendship first, and fan the fires of passion along the way.

Tip number one for when you get into a relationship: Focus on the positive in him, you, and the relationship. EVERYONE has warts, and if you keep looking at them, that is all you are going to see. Most relationships fail because one person constantly brings up one item that irritates the hell out of the other person, and usually that one thing is NOT very important in the scheme of things. Women, Whine is a thing best served with cheese and is not the best form of communication and is something that will not win his heart or affection. I have known several extremely beautiful, accomplished women who could not stop whining, and hence could never fathom why they could never maintain a healthy, happy, loving relationship. Guys, learn to ask questions about the lady you are with OTHER than her physical attributes. Find something, anything that you two might share an interest in. Tip guys; woman really want to be appreciate for something other than their body, an it usually rest between their ears (it is neither their earrings, hair or their eyes).

Just as when I was practicing martial arts, the more I stayed at it the better I got. The more confidence and skill I was able to retain. Love is an Art form, very much like self-defense. It can both protect you and make you strong. It gives you balance and strength. It both soothes, and stresses. It is a cosmic force and an inner peace. Training for Love will eventually yield huge dividends. Love takes practice and therefore demands action. Usually the best way to put it is when you were young and started playing sports, you had practice, and coaches, and scrimmages, and more practice, coaching, games, successes and failures and once you got better at it, it became eventually easier to do. And when you started playing, you dreamed of becoming a pro, and winning that national championship (Stanley Cup, World Series, Masters, etc.). You set a goal and started going for it. Even though you might not become a pro, you got very good at whatever sport you were in. Now ask yourself, in the most important “sport” of your life, how much practice, coaching, and training have you done to increase your chances of success then change your behavior accordingly. Remember Love is a team sport. IF the partner becomes defensive, lower your voice, take some space, and give yourself some distance. If they truly love you they will come back, if not then they are not ready to love.