(This is a continuation of the "What is Love?" series of posts)
This brings me to the next topic about LOVE. Really love is about Power and Energy. This energy is all aro und us, untapped and unseen. See my Love and Dark Matter post for more detailed explanation. When you master Love you are able to tap into this power and begin to realize that the world is not such a difficult place after all. Things you though were not possible, become possible. You gain insight, wisdom, creativity, humor, and kindness that were reserved for the sages. When you are with another person who masters Love, the energy is on a quantum level. Your vibrations resonate so strongly together that no power on heaven or earth could ever separate you. This is where the expression “Love is Eternal” comes from. True, undying, unyielding, blinding Love has a power and energy unmatched in the universe. When you are able to control it, you feel almost god-like. Hugo says, “The supreme happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved - loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves."
The energy that comes from truly and honestly being in love with another person is absolutely astounding. You find you can tap untold stores of energy, enthusiasm, and endurance. You are more playful, upbeat, kinetic, and restless. Your batteries rarely discharge, and you seem to always be able to go the extra mile and no distance or effort seems too great. You wonder where this came from, and you cannot understand how you can now sleep more soundly, and wake up with more vigor! The energy of Love emanates from your soul and feeds other people around you. You actually will become a magnet to people around you because of this abundance of energy that permeates your very being. Real Love creates energy, other imitation loves drain you. As Tagore says, “Love is the highest bliss that man can attain to, for through it alone he truly knows that he is more than himself, and that he is at one with the All.”
Here is to feeling the power and energy that true love brings. -- Joan
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Tuesday, September 01, 2009
Sunday, July 19, 2009
Love is about Freedom, Not Possession
This is a tough one for most people to understand. Love is about Freedom. When you love a person, you cannot bind them to your Love. You can only bind yourself to them. Actually, when you truly LOVE another person, you are constantly challenging them to grow and strengthen. The only way they can do this is separate form yourself! Yes, away from you! But the GREAT thing about love and separation is as de la Rouchefoucauld says, “Absence diminishes small loves and increases great ones, as the wind blows out the candle and fans the bonfire.”
Remember in my earlier post I spoke about the Chemicals involved in falling in Love? (see Is Love just a Chemical Addiction?) Well, this is where those chemicals are now fighting against a higher, truer more permanent and lasting love. Oh boy, this is where all the problems I see in my practice come in and where the Masters of Love separate themselves from the Slaves to Love. Where couples who are happy and fulfilled in their relationships separate themselves from those who are not. The ability to see past this “primordial” chemical fix is what can get us to the Love we Deserve. This is going to be the single hardest thing for most people to do: Let Go! Give Freedom! The addictive properties of the drugs coursing through our bodies want to make you hold onto the initial feelings of euphoria and pleasure, but believe me they are transitory at best.
Holding on to them and subsequently the person who initially triggered them will not result in the long term joy, security, and passion you really want. They will give you Lust but not Love! And lust is ephemeral and unsustainable; it is as transitory as a summer storm. You will be going from one failed relationship to another trying to maintain or regain that “fix.” If you just want Lust then fine, but if you want to discover the joys of true soul shaking love then let go and become a master.
Real Love, Deep Love, does not need to hold on. In actuality, the MORE freedom you give the other person you love and who truly loves you, the MORE Love you get. Being away from the other person who vibrates at the same frequency as you, your other true half, is so disturbing that the whole time you are away you whole psyche sends out a beckon making them ache for their return. The further they are away from you, you somehow become less away from them. Of course, you WANT to be with them as you cannot wait to tell them of your victories, and defeats; or to hear about theirs; but you do not NEED to be near them. Freedom begets strength and courage and all the joys associated with them.
The other part of Freedom is in what you GIVE. True Love allows you to give yourself freely, completely, totally to the other, to the relationship. Every fiber in your body, your heart, your soul, your mind is given over to the relationship. You do not loose your ego, but instead create an entity that gives you power and self confidence. This is the Freedom in what you GET. There is NO fear of being hurt, or disappointed, but because the Love is in the giving. If the other person does not accept the gift, the gift is still there. It has not diminished, nor lessened in its value or beauty. If the other person cannot accept it, then you still have the gift to give and it just may to be given to another. Still, to have another Love you completely, deeply, honestly, freely, totally is Life’s Greatest Joy. You cannot make another Love you, but when you Love, remember it is always about setting the other Free. This Freedom in turn will be given back to you when you are loved back.
Anything that tries to mitigate that Freedom, to superimpose an unwilling or unnatural binding, to restrict your inner child, your growth, your needs is not Love but possession. So when your partner starts to curtail your actions, or wants you to move in too soon, or takes you away from your friends, or routines, or likes, or asks to marry you too soon, etc.; these are some of the warning signs of possession. The need to possess comes for a sense of insecurity (I will talk about this in a subsequent post). This insecurity can come from many places, but it an acid that will eat away at the relationship as surely as the sun rises. At first it may look like kindness , or want, or love, but it is NOT. It is control. It is a neediness that cannot return true Love, but instead takes. True Love Gives, it does not hold.
When true Love is involved, there is no jealousy or envy. You are actually proud that your partner is independent, accomplished, confident and desired or wanted by the opposite sex. I am not saying they want to be with other people, actually no, they ONLY want to be connected with you mentally, emotionally, and physically. When you Love truly, you actually only see that other person and they only see you. That every other person in the world has become something different (not less, but just different). If this binding is not mutual or natural, then you have something less or different than Love, and you should move away from it as soon as possible. Love is about Freedom, not possession. As the saying goes, if you Love someone set them free, if they return it was meant to be, if not, then let them go. It will save you time, effort and plenty of heartache.
Remember in my earlier post I spoke about the Chemicals involved in falling in Love? (see Is Love just a Chemical Addiction?) Well, this is where those chemicals are now fighting against a higher, truer more permanent and lasting love. Oh boy, this is where all the problems I see in my practice come in and where the Masters of Love separate themselves from the Slaves to Love. Where couples who are happy and fulfilled in their relationships separate themselves from those who are not. The ability to see past this “primordial” chemical fix is what can get us to the Love we Deserve. This is going to be the single hardest thing for most people to do: Let Go! Give Freedom! The addictive properties of the drugs coursing through our bodies want to make you hold onto the initial feelings of euphoria and pleasure, but believe me they are transitory at best.
Holding on to them and subsequently the person who initially triggered them will not result in the long term joy, security, and passion you really want. They will give you Lust but not Love! And lust is ephemeral and unsustainable; it is as transitory as a summer storm. You will be going from one failed relationship to another trying to maintain or regain that “fix.” If you just want Lust then fine, but if you want to discover the joys of true soul shaking love then let go and become a master.
Real Love, Deep Love, does not need to hold on. In actuality, the MORE freedom you give the other person you love and who truly loves you, the MORE Love you get. Being away from the other person who vibrates at the same frequency as you, your other true half, is so disturbing that the whole time you are away you whole psyche sends out a beckon making them ache for their return. The further they are away from you, you somehow become less away from them. Of course, you WANT to be with them as you cannot wait to tell them of your victories, and defeats; or to hear about theirs; but you do not NEED to be near them. Freedom begets strength and courage and all the joys associated with them.
The other part of Freedom is in what you GIVE. True Love allows you to give yourself freely, completely, totally to the other, to the relationship. Every fiber in your body, your heart, your soul, your mind is given over to the relationship. You do not loose your ego, but instead create an entity that gives you power and self confidence. This is the Freedom in what you GET. There is NO fear of being hurt, or disappointed, but because the Love is in the giving. If the other person does not accept the gift, the gift is still there. It has not diminished, nor lessened in its value or beauty. If the other person cannot accept it, then you still have the gift to give and it just may to be given to another. Still, to have another Love you completely, deeply, honestly, freely, totally is Life’s Greatest Joy. You cannot make another Love you, but when you Love, remember it is always about setting the other Free. This Freedom in turn will be given back to you when you are loved back.
Anything that tries to mitigate that Freedom, to superimpose an unwilling or unnatural binding, to restrict your inner child, your growth, your needs is not Love but possession. So when your partner starts to curtail your actions, or wants you to move in too soon, or takes you away from your friends, or routines, or likes, or asks to marry you too soon, etc.; these are some of the warning signs of possession. The need to possess comes for a sense of insecurity (I will talk about this in a subsequent post). This insecurity can come from many places, but it an acid that will eat away at the relationship as surely as the sun rises. At first it may look like kindness , or want, or love, but it is NOT. It is control. It is a neediness that cannot return true Love, but instead takes. True Love Gives, it does not hold.
When true Love is involved, there is no jealousy or envy. You are actually proud that your partner is independent, accomplished, confident and desired or wanted by the opposite sex. I am not saying they want to be with other people, actually no, they ONLY want to be connected with you mentally, emotionally, and physically. When you Love truly, you actually only see that other person and they only see you. That every other person in the world has become something different (not less, but just different). If this binding is not mutual or natural, then you have something less or different than Love, and you should move away from it as soon as possible. Love is about Freedom, not possession. As the saying goes, if you Love someone set them free, if they return it was meant to be, if not, then let them go. It will save you time, effort and plenty of heartache.
Thursday, May 14, 2009
Victim or Victor?
The Questions many ask, "Am I or Are We going to be OK? Will it get worse? How can I make it better? What will I do if...?"
Some Call it "The Dharma". It means the whole. All sides. Our perception of Good & Bad is just that... our perception. WE created this perception, and WE, determine it by how it effects our own lives. However, it is only perception. It may indeed be believed by a group, or only one individual. No matter how many believe it, it is still just perception.
Civilizations have come and gone. It's part of the cycle of life, or even the Universal Plan. However, we co-create these civilizations, as well as co-destroy. Changes in our physical environment will happen many times as that is a part of the ALL. How we deal with it is the issue. Are we going to be Victims or Victors. Victor in this case does not mean winning a war; and Victim does not mean losing a battle. If we are victims, it means, we are not ready to grow and evolve. Are we ready to Evolve our Mind and Heart? Are we ready to move to the next level of consciousness? Victors are ready. This is the next step in our growth of consciousness, and our evolution, in both spirit and mind. And these things that happen Now (bad or good), are what help us to grow and evolve. It has always been this way.
The changes in our Mind-Heart are the most important. You are co-creating the world; Your environment, bit by bit every moment. You literally are what you project. Your actions and words do matter! And Your thoughts matter too. Actions do help co-create your environment, however, your part of the environment begins with a thought. Thought creates, form, action, and energy. The perception you have is the energy you project. It always starts with a thought.
Maybe the true question was or is; "How may I serve you Universe? As I am that I am, which is part Co-Creator." And often it echos this back to you. Especially when it is pure.
Joan with help from the Dude from the Desert
"It is within before it is without." DFD
Some Call it "The Dharma". It means the whole. All sides. Our perception of Good & Bad is just that... our perception. WE created this perception, and WE, determine it by how it effects our own lives. However, it is only perception. It may indeed be believed by a group, or only one individual. No matter how many believe it, it is still just perception.
Civilizations have come and gone. It's part of the cycle of life, or even the Universal Plan. However, we co-create these civilizations, as well as co-destroy. Changes in our physical environment will happen many times as that is a part of the ALL. How we deal with it is the issue. Are we going to be Victims or Victors. Victor in this case does not mean winning a war; and Victim does not mean losing a battle. If we are victims, it means, we are not ready to grow and evolve. Are we ready to Evolve our Mind and Heart? Are we ready to move to the next level of consciousness? Victors are ready. This is the next step in our growth of consciousness, and our evolution, in both spirit and mind. And these things that happen Now (bad or good), are what help us to grow and evolve. It has always been this way.
The changes in our Mind-Heart are the most important. You are co-creating the world; Your environment, bit by bit every moment. You literally are what you project. Your actions and words do matter! And Your thoughts matter too. Actions do help co-create your environment, however, your part of the environment begins with a thought. Thought creates, form, action, and energy. The perception you have is the energy you project. It always starts with a thought.
Maybe the true question was or is; "How may I serve you Universe? As I am that I am, which is part Co-Creator." And often it echos this back to you. Especially when it is pure.
Joan with help from the Dude from the Desert
"It is within before it is without." DFD
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